Just a quick rant about a trend I’ve seen a lot of lately, and have even struggled with personally, on some level.
People addicted to being “asked,” and not following through with the commitment, is plaguing ministry.
What is the “ask?”
The ask always involves someone needing our help with a big opportunity or great idea for the Kingdom, so it’s easy to jump on board.
This also feeds the need to be valued, wanted, and do something with eternal impact.
Our world, namely the church world, is full of new ideas and options more than ever right now. Folks are biting off more than they can chew. It’s really easy to live for the next big idea without honoring commitments of the last “ask.”
The end result is living for the high “asks” bring, and gaining a reputation of being someone who overcommits, doesn’t see projects through to completion, and always chasing the next big thing.
On the flip side, the addict shuts themselves off, burns out, burns bridges, and even severs friendships. It’s a bad spot to be in.
Just say “no!”
Plain and simple, but saying “no” is the hardest thing to do sometimes.
Decide on a maximum number of extracurricular projects you want to say “yes” to during the year, and stick to it. Don’t say “yes” to a new project before you have completed or at least have a schedule to complete the last.
Be honest with folks you are working with. If you bit off more than you can chew, tell them. Honesty is better than avoidance.
Finally, spend some quality time in prayer with God. Seek his wisdom. He’ll give you a peace about some opportunities and a dissonance for others.
Am I making a big deal out of nothing, or have you experienced this first-hand, too?