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Are You Addicted to the “Ask?”

Just a quick rant about a trend I’ve seen a lot of lately, and have even struggled with personally, on some level.

People addicted to being “asked,” and not following through with the commitment, is plaguing ministry.

What is the “ask?”

The ask always involves someone needing our help with a big opportunity or great idea for the Kingdom, so it’s easy to jump on board.

This also feeds the need to be valued, wanted, and do something with eternal impact.

Our world, namely the church world, is full of new ideas and options more than ever right now. Folks are biting off more than they can chew. It’s really easy to live for the next big idea without honoring commitments of the last “ask.”

The end result is living for the high “asks” bring, and gaining a reputation of being someone who overcommits, doesn’t see projects through to completion, and always chasing the next big thing.

On the flip side, the addict shuts themselves off, burns out, burns bridges, and even severs friendships. It’s a bad spot to be in.

Just say “no!”

Plain and simple, but saying “no” is the hardest thing to do sometimes.

Decide on a maximum number of extracurricular projects you want to say “yes” to during the year, and stick to it. Don’t say “yes” to a new project before you have completed or at least have a schedule to complete the last.

Be honest with folks you are working with. If you bit off more than you can chew, tell them. Honesty is better than avoidance.

Finally, spend some quality time in prayer with God. Seek his wisdom. He’ll give you a peace about some opportunities and a dissonance for others.

Am I making a big deal out of nothing, or have you experienced this first-hand, too?

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  1. Eric Granata (Reply) on March 23rd, 2011

    Ouch! I have been guilty of and experienced this from all sides. What a good reminder to pray things through before committing.

    On a personal level, I think my issues (and perhaps some of your readers can identify) are a result of my entrepreneurial inclination. I get juiced about anything, businesses, churches…whatever, in the start-up phase. But sometimes after the “high” of dreaming wears off, I find that I have neither the time nor money to invest in everything.

    I can’t be a part of or do everything that I’d like to do, which prods and pokes at all of my insecurities. As a result I am constantly having to re-adjust my perspective and expectations of myself and others to align more with God’s will. Which, in the end, is probably more valuable than having my name on any church or business project.

    • Cleve Persinger (Reply) on March 23rd, 2011

      Thanks for these comments, Eric. Solid.

      I think you hit the nail on the head with pointing out the struggle of “entrepreneurial inclination.”

      I also appreciate the reminder to re-align with God’s will and not get caught up in trying to do everything — I often feel those “insecurities.”


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